Relationship Advice

So among the questions on this website about what might turn a woman on, there’s one really critical question that’s not actually been answered so far: what is it that allows men and women to get together in relationship, without arguing or having emotional problems of some kind?

More to the point, what is it that allows a man to get together with a woman in a relationship that is mutually satisfying, rewarding, and emotionally fulfilling?

So if I was being cynical, I’d really sum this up by saying what is it that allows a woman to Capture a Man’s Heart, and Make Him Love Her Forever?

You see, we all know that women and men are different in how they think and feel, and in particular we know that women have what we might call a “romantic streak”, while men tend to be much more sexually driven. These are generalities, of course, but they do hold true for a great many people in life, and it’s always worth remembering that generalities tend to be based on real examples of human behaviour.

Now I don’t regard myself as particularly cynical, because I’ve written many websites on romance, love, sex, and intimacy, and so my objective has always been to try and develop information packages and to convey dating advice and relationship advice that will help men and women establish a worthwhile and satisfying relationship.

But it occurred to me recently that there’s a much more fundamental need for information on the Internet, about how men and women can get into a relationship in the first place.

Now, I said I was going to provide information that would enable a woman to capture a man’s heart and make him love her forever. But believe it or not, that actually is the name of a genuine Internet program offered as a relationship advice program for women.

I was so intrigued when I discovered it that I actually wrote a whole review site about it, giving you all the information you could possibly need about how and why it’s possible for programs that might seem manipulative to be of real benefit couples in establishing a relationship together.

You see, I think we’re all in thrall to the idea of romantic love, and I think one of the things that flows from that is the suggestion that man should meet woman, man should fall in love with woman, woman should fall in love with man, and all live happily ever after.

Work as a therapist and counselor shows me that actually nothing could be further from what really happens: men struggle to meet women, women are frightened of men, prospective couples never talk to each other, many relationships are based on misunderstanding, the pickup artist community rules the Internet, and we don’t all live happily ever after. So to get around the stupidity of many Internet review sites, in particular those reviewing Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever.

And the lack of information and knowledge that so many people have about dating and relationships, I’m going to provide you with a genuine review of Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever and you can see this fantastic dating advice website here.

Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever is a program for women looking for a relationship with men, and its premise is that by providing information about male behaviour, emotions, thoughts and feelings, and explaining to women what it is that men really want, women will be better equipped to go out and get a relationship.

When you think about it, there’s nothing there that we can actually disagree with! Women like information about how men think and feel, and women want to know how to get over their difficulties in approaching men, because the conventional cultural standard is that women should wait to be pursued by men.

Yet men fear rejection to such an extent that this rarely happens! That’s really the true value of programs like Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever: they even out the discrepancy between the sexes by providing each sex with information about how the other thinks and feels, so that it really does become easier to capture each other’s hearts. Now whether or not you going to live romantically in love forever is another issue, but at least you have the best possible start….

Sidebar: Some months later: I do now have a little bit more to say about Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever — chiefly because I have discovered that it’s an extremely successful and popular program online with women.

What this says to me is that there’s a real shortage of good dating advice for women on the Internet.

That’s not meant to imply that capture his heart and make him love you forever isn’t a good program, because I believe that it is in fact an extremely good program — the fact of the matter is, however, that one of the reasons it sells so well is because there is very little competition of this quality.

It doesn’t matter whether or not you actually believe in the sexual stereotypes that underpin the writing of this program.

(And those sexual stereotypes are that: (1) women are searching for a long-term relationship with a man who will stay with them forever, and that they particularly want to marry that man and know that he cherishes and loves them above everyone else, and that (2) men are fickle creatures who need to have the thrill of the chase to excite them enough to want to enter into relationship with a woman, and even after they had done so, they still need to be stimulated in a similar way to maintain their interest.)

Sexual stereotypes are, after all, just what you make them: Bernie Zilbergeld spent a lot of time and effort demolishing sexual stereotypes and pointing out the myths that underpin many of our relationships, but I personally think he got this one wrong.

I think the truth of the matter is that men and women do behave in the ways described above, and that anything which enables men and women to attain a degree of freedom and choice whilst fulfilling their natural urges to relate to each other in those particular ways can only be a good thing.

This of course is where Mike Fiore and Claire Casey triumph above everyone else. They know, perhaps as no one else does, that establishing good relationships depends on particular forms, if you like, of interaction between men and women.

The secret of their success in writing Capture His Heart is to put down on paper the principles which seemed to underpin many of our relationships, and which certainly underpin good dating advice for women, but which are rarely acknowledged.